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factors leading to breakage of relationships



as couples think of valentines day. may you also bear in mind the most probable causes of breakage of relationships. the following among others is key in determining failure of a relationship


Friends:
         These are people who are not members of our families who we know like and too know and like us in return. A friend is someone who feels bad when you are going the wrong direction and always stands by you in times of trouble and tough moments . A friend is one who supports you morally, psychologically, socially and it could be also economically. It should not be just taking without receiving from that person you call to be a friend.
Many of us mistake acquaintances for friends. Here, an acquaintance is a person you could be knowing and is not your friend, but you can discuss a number of things a part from your personal and family problems and successes.
We have all had friends and many of us have had lovers and very intimate friends of opposite sex who soon would become our lovers . Others look forward to having these intimate relationships in the future. Ask yourself how important is your friend to your intimate relationship. How much must you trust your friend with your spouse, how does he/she need to know about the challenge and successes you have had as a couple. How many times have you encountered problems in your relationship and ran to these people we call to be our friends. And what have always been the outcomes? To what extent do you have to trust your spouse with your friend?
Have you ever heard of people talking about their friends snatching their spouses from them? Those are not friends, these are just friendly enemies and familiar strangers.
If you do want to have a happy and long lasting relationship, there are things that you should not let your friends to get to know about because some of them pretend to be too good to us and yet In actual sense they always wish that you fall out of the relationship so that they can get the opportunity to be with you or your partner. I do not disregard completely letting these people to know about our relationship because they know our weaknesses and strengths. Sometimes your spouse could be too much caring and responsible unlike your friends. This makes some people to be jealous and curious of you and your relationship, though these people pretend to be too good.
But it also falls to you as an individual and it beats my understanding how best you cheat on your spouse with a friend. What could it be?, Promiscuity or looseness?Or you just don't seem to know why you are in the relationship and just because others have or because you feel he/she was not the person of your qualities and standards. If you may ask yourself, how many friends does your spouse have and must you just look on whenever your spouse is with a different friend and you can not even ask yourself if they are really friends. Well, sometimes you will be taken to be so possessive, but even then this is a defense mechanism that a cheating spouse will use to cover up his/ her lustful behaviour.
Have you ever become suspicious when your friend keeps asking you all the time about your spouse, and you just kept on saying any thing about him/her to your friend, what to your friend, what could be the repercussion and the good side of it .Be ware, that not all that is green is grass, not all that is black is charcoal. Many of our friends have always talked about our date mates and how good or bad they are when they realize that they are not compatible with your spouse, they all advice you to abandon. Who is in the relationship, you or your friends and who bears the primary responsibility to know whether your spouse is nice or not?

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