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THE PLIGHT OF TODAY'S YOUNG MEN, A RESULT OF GENDER BAISES AND MISCONCEPTIONS



Perhaps it was then that growing up a boy was one of the most interesting and wonderful part of life. To any young man today, it may be a little different and quit cumbersome to think that may be at one point in time, all shall be well.

With the fruits of women emancipation yielding well to the extent that now every family has a girl up to a certain level of education, the future is seemingly becoming harrowing and mind boggling to think that education will better any man’s life.

The life of a young man today is that that he has to endure the daunting moments of heckling from the opposite sex many of whom always think they are mature enough. The young man of today unlike one of those days, must struggle amid many forces against them to strive to achieve to the expectation and measure of the same opposite sex that believes that they are empowered.

The young man of today, despite being denied 1.5 additional points to enter university has got to struggle to do the course works for the female counterparts some of whom may be their intimate partners. The young man struggles to research, scribble the course works while the female counter parts are busy in the streets of busy towns and in wonderful places of clubs, theatres, take away restaurants and in the end they claim the young man is not style up.

The consequence of outings makes the female counterparts to perform worse and in the end, they want Affirmative Action. To worsen matters, the female counterparts are busy outing with men several times their age fit to be their grandfathers. Am I being biased? A friend of mine said so, but I am told these days we also have men who date their “grandmothers.” The same young man even with today’s unemployment rate is supposed according to the perceptions of the so called emancipated women to provide may be half or almost all of the needs of the female counterpart, short of that, the calamity may not be far from desertion, mockery and hatred.

The debate that cultural buriers are still stringent on the side of women is yet another question that we need to ponder upon. Well, it may be true and the blame game will perhaps be the most unquenchable weapon upon the failure of most women.

The plight of the young man today is to maneuver through unfair selection process in jobs selection with priority given to women who have unlike in the past gone to earn better money, but still want the men they have put in disadvantaged position to be the bread winners, save for the widows and divorced by uncertainty

In an era of a time when women are doing all possible, this may be one of the most controversial piece if writing from a fellow like me who has been an eminent agitator of women rights and associated with one of the big women’s organizations in the country, but I hope I will bring in a constructive though divergent debate to this. Perhaps, I may have to borrow the view point of controversial journalist and “old man of the clan” Andrew Mwenda when he says that one’s views may change, but I don’t mean that I have stopped fighting for the rights of women,

As if it isn’t enough, the plight of the young man of today is made more than worse even when women who may be their age mates or even younger than them begin to think that they are immature even when they foot their own bills, and take them out for movie nights, buy them drinks, buy them expensive phones, buy them all sorts of gifts and take them to expensive dinners, but the emancipated women hardly has the courtesy to reciprocate their actions.

The plight of young man of today is even made graver when he attempts to propose to women he has been nice to. He has to keep trying his lack as society believes that that at one point, he must be able to bring home the lost rib.
The plight of the young men of today is to suffer insults of their so cold fiancées who do not realize that probably at one point he could have grown up from a poor home and has to take responsibility of the success of their home as well build and maintain his relationship with a woman who has several men on standby and may squash her decision to the latter.

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"where there's always prejudice and preconceived bias, however much you try to be good, you will always be bad"

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