as couples think of valentines day. may you also bear in mind the most probable causes of breakage of relationships. the following among others is key in determining failure of a relationship
Friends:
These are people who are not members
of our families who we know like and too know and like us in return. A friend is
someone who feels bad when you are going the wrong direction and always stands
by you in times of trouble and tough moments . A friend is one who supports you
morally, psychologically, socially and it could be also economically. It should
not be just taking without receiving from that person you call to be a friend.
Many
of us mistake acquaintances for friends. Here, an acquaintance is a person you
could be knowing and is not your friend, but you can discuss a number of things
a part from your personal and family problems and successes.
We
have all had friends and many of us have had lovers and very intimate friends
of opposite sex who soon would become our lovers . Others look forward to
having these intimate relationships in the future. Ask yourself how important
is your friend to your intimate relationship. How much must you trust your
friend with your spouse, how does he/she need to know about the challenge and
successes you have had as a couple. How many times have you encountered
problems in your relationship and ran to these people we call to be our
friends. And what have always been the outcomes? To what extent do you have to
trust your spouse with your friend?
Have
you ever heard of people talking about their friends snatching their spouses
from them? Those are not friends, these are just friendly enemies and familiar
strangers.
If
you do want to have a happy and long lasting relationship, there are things
that you should not let your friends to get to know about because some of them
pretend to be too good to us and yet In actual sense they always wish that you
fall out of the relationship so that they can get the opportunity to be with
you or your partner. I do not disregard completely letting these people to know
about our relationship because they know our weaknesses and strengths.
Sometimes your spouse could be too much caring and responsible unlike your friends.
This makes some people to be jealous and curious of you and your relationship,
though these people pretend to be too good.
But
it also falls to you as an individual and it beats my understanding how best
you cheat on your spouse with a friend. What could it be?, Promiscuity or
looseness?Or you just don't seem to know why you are in the relationship and
just because others have or because you feel he/she was not the person of your
qualities and standards. If you may ask yourself, how many friends does your
spouse have and must you just look on whenever your spouse is with a different
friend and you can not even ask yourself if they are really friends. Well,
sometimes you will be taken to be so possessive, but even then this is a defense mechanism that a cheating spouse will use to cover up his/ her lustful
behaviour.
Have
you ever become suspicious when your friend keeps asking you all the time about
your spouse, and you just kept on saying any thing about him/her to your
friend, what to your friend, what could be the repercussion and the good side of
it .Be ware, that not all that is green is grass, not all that is black is
charcoal. Many of our friends have always talked about our date mates and how
good or bad they are when they realize that they are not compatible with your
spouse, they all advice you to abandon. Who is in the relationship, you or your
friends and who bears the primary responsibility to know whether your spouse is
nice or not?
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