SETTING
STANDARDS
It is very clear and understandable and
indeed normal to set standards and conditions as to what kind of person you
would like to have, but think the other way and ask your conscience what
benefit or negative doing it will have to your quest for soul satisfaction.
Many of us have done this in many situations, because it may keep you focused
and destined to be the kind of person you always want to be. Some of us have
found half of what they wanted, others have never come close to their
satisfaction while others have found and left the opportunities to slip off
their way, but how many have always found exactly what they wanted? Hey, look,
here you are thinking of getting a very educated fellow, who is too wealthy,
light skinned, tall or short, from your own tribe, or whichever you wish to! Alternatively,
looking for a medium height lady with wide hips, light skinned, educated and
working and should not be of a different tribe even when you are convinced
beyond reasonable doubt that in your tribe most people are dark skinned and
rarely do women posses wide hips.
Setting standards for the kind of person you would like to spend the
rest of your life which is not a crime not even an offence since everyone is entitled
to his /her personal decisions and indeed its decisions that are made solely by
individuals that you feel when made can ease your life with that person. If
only you could ask yourself whether
these people really do exist or not and if
they do can they be found and if they can be found shall you be content with
them? It is for that reason that the words single but not searching or single
but contented are now more pronounced than ever.
If
only we could understand that not at any time shall we find exactly the people with
the exact features, we would have gotten what we wanted. The notion of failing to
hold certain factors constant shall, leave you maneuvering in the company of loneliness
and disgust painted with uncertain
clouds of whether you can land on one or not especially now in a world where many factors seem to dictate
upon the kind of person you are to have by your side. In many situations, we have found ourselves being delighted by the
thought of landing on a working class, or person of your education status or
even lower than yours according to your wish and standards, but I would like you
to understand that even if having a person who shall share with you financial
responsibilities is a good idea, there are many strings attached that many of
us have observed and has led to you falling out with the person you so thought
loved you among the multiple that you felt like the only well in the desert. I
am not against sharing responsibilities, but according to the many people I
have interacted with, there is an inner feeling that lies deep in their thought
that there is a possibility of such people having extra marital affairs
commonly known as the side dish.
Sometimes
it beats my understanding as to why many people could really fall prey to such
affairs, could it be that it is natural, could it be that you are simply loose
or could it be you don’t care about your self esteem and moral integrity or
could it be you just don’t care about your public image or could it be that you
have made it your hobby that you feel without it your life is made sad or could
it be the environment that you live in? Think about it. All this challenges are
now consistent with the saying that there is no love. Yes, to some extent, you
could be right, but to some extent, you could be wrong because many people today
do not know what love is all about. Sometimes you may want a more cashed fellow
to be your other half, but remember that if not all among the so-called loaded
people, three quarters are cheats. You may be loaded and may be offended by
this, but if you know that you are not the kind relax and read on- behold and
put it at the back of your mind that money is an associate of immorality and infidelity except for the few.
Despite
the fact that money may bring that much-needed comfort in life, it can also
create that much uncalled for desperation especially in a setting where you
live far away from each other. we therefore need to be ourselves and get to
understand and always remember that if you really want to have a person for yourself,
be realistic enough and get to know that depending or focusing too much on what
the other person has worked for shall not only cause you problems but also make
you to be perceived as a target worker and an opportunist who is incapable of working
for your own even if death never does you part. This believe me, many can even
if you strove harder to have him/ her create secondary problems in your love life.
Its why many men and women mostly those in their forties are living a single
unpredictable life and later on fall in for any nonentity just because they
have failed to hold certain aspects constant during their youthful days such as
religion, cultural diversities, money bit of it and education and age. This
could also be caused by the social kind of life that you have been and are
still living. It could be you in the same scenario, sit down think, imagine,
meditate, compare, infer and make that much needed and vital decision for yourself
because you need to have a person who shall share with you dark moments, light
moments, hardships, advice which is
hardly given by many partners. So! Do you wish to have someone of that kind, or
not? The decision and the final thought lies deep in your heart, opportunities
shall always come to your eyes but shall never flash them. Some times when one
tries to advice in many situations, such people and referred to as all knowing
and you would not wish to spend with them the rest of your love life because in
many situations you feel you cannot influence or play with their psychology.
Think, think, and think until you think that you can think no more that you
feel you should damage your own ego and you shall never live a misery-filled
life.
Caution is also needed when setting out a
search for a person you could be admiring especially now that many people are camouflaging
their positions especially some people simply pretend to be poor when in actual
sense they are they are somehow fairly cashed all because he/she could have
been thought a lesson by a target
shooter, some simply pretend to be morally upright simply because they have
been seeing you for a longer period of time and hence would wish to catch up with
you to and perhaps eventually have you as their dream partners. Those shall try
as much as possible to get close to you with much hidden intentions that you
shall only realize when you have fallen prey to the unscrupulous person. So be
careful a little and take time but do not be overwhelmed by your past love
life, you could multiply the jeopardy in your misery.
Sometimes,
some people wouldn’t wish to declare their positions or assets to you at the
very first time for it is assumed that you could simply fall in for his/ her
assets rather than the person. We need to be slow while handling such areas
because speed causes accidents and accidents ruin your life perhaps for the
rest of your time on earth.
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