In
such an African setting where the males have for long been seen as the superiors in
every aspect of life, many women have been brought up to think that they are incapable as
many men keep telling them as they grow from childhood to adult hood. Let every woman outside there make their
ambitions to perish. Many women in this world have made it, just to mention but a
few; Winfrey Oprah the American idol who rose froma relatively poor upbringing, the late Martha Wanghai the noble peace price Laurette and environmentalist,
Dr Miria Matembe the then minister for ethics and integrity, outspoken and probably the most vocal woman of her time, Silvia Awori the fashion icon, among many others.
From
a relatively humble home, Oprah Winfrey for instance did not remain the woman
she was at child hood... despite a number of set backs she encountered in child hood, she still
strove irrespective of the her surrounding to be among the richest people in the
US beating the men who claim to be superior. Irrespective of your age as a woman, origin,
culture and traditions, you have all it takes to be the woman you may dream to
be. The worst injustice you can ever do to your self is to believe that you are
incapable, actually, its a very sure way of courting failure. To be the women you want, first
of all, you must ask yourself, what do I want to be? When do I want to be who I
want to be? What do I need to be who I want to be? What do I have and what do I
lack and how can I get what I lack.
It
doesn’t matter what conditions you have had in life.
It doesn’t matter what your
origin is, but what matters is your future, the past is past and the future
remains the future, therefore, do you want your past to destroy your future.
Actually the future is greater than the past irrespective of how long your past
is. If for instance with all probably the challenges you have had in the past
you are still living, what would inhibit you to make better and significant
progress in your life?
You
should always believe in yourself. Murcas Gurvey, one of the most celebrated anti
slavery activists once said that, with confidence you have already won even
before you start, but without confidence, you are twice beaten” However, you
may never have the confidence if you do not believe in yourself.
It
is understandable that women in particular have got a number of challenges
especially accrued to them by the biological processes, but this should not
mean that out of all the successful women today that none of them performs the
biological responsibilities. This should even task women to be better planners
and visualizers. When the going gets tough, the tough gets the going and Chinua
Achebe once said that, when the birds learn to fly without perching, the
hunters learn to shoot without missing. Therefore, women in this case should be
the hunters to shoot the birds that have learned to fly without perching.
Do
embrace every challenges that comes your way with a positive mind and that way,
you will be in position to get the probable solutions to the existing
challenges.
To
sum this up, the ball lies in your hands, either kick it into the goal or kick
it to the side net. You have all it takes to be who you want to be. Keep your
dreams alive by being focused on what you want to achieve. Let it be the order
of the day for any woman who wants to achieve by thinking constantly on what
one would like to achieve. Every night before falling asleep, reflect on the
past day assess your performance, where you went right, what you did rightly
and what you did not do rightly. Think of how you can reduce your weaknesses
and see how you can build further on your strengths. Either way, reflect on how
the next day will be and see the probable challenges that you may encounter in
the coming days and try to figure out how you can be in position to sort them
out. Pave you destiny and do not be demoralised by society and its traits of
attitudes towards women.
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